I and one of my friends were having a conversation on a Monday noon.
I told him with excitement, “Do you know?
There is a good and beautiful girl in our institution. And I am planning to have some hi hello with her tomorrow (this
was only for a fun purpose with all due respect to feminize). He smiled and asked me. ”How do you know that she was good”? I answered, “I know”. But he insisted and then, I replied, “she was beautiful, fair, had specs, had gentle clothing sense, and
looked like a well brought up girl”.
He smiled and asked me,
“Is it enough and all
to prove her that she is good”. I just stopped and realized, “It is
not enough, but why I feel
like she is good”? I told him “But I feel
like she is good”. Then he told me,
“This
is the problem. We live in
a country where a guy is regarded as studious or very studious if he
is fair and do wear a t-shirt
with a formal pant, and we don’t have even any doubt on our prejudication, if
he wears specs, But does
he have enough attributes or do
we think much before being prejudice“? I think "NO". We give those light
colored people an unfair advantage just because they are fair. Are we not the practitioners
of shadism or colorism? It was one of those many times
when he was right and I am wrong. And I don’t know how many will agree with his
plead but certainly I do
agree. I am sure it must have happened with you all, when u feel awkward to sit
with or to mingle with a colored
person (person dark or black in complexion)
only because, he is not fair. You always
give a reason to yourself that, “He
was not clean”? But please do introspect once.
Was it the truth? I think “No”. I am not saying that “we always avoid sitting
with a colored person, I am saying only “At
some point of our
life we have done that”. I
have never gone abroad but I have
gone outside of my
state several times. While going by bus
or by train, if some
colored person ask you
to share your seat for a few moment, what will
be your response? I have seen people dining them just because, they
are colored people.
The same people are not insensitive either. I have
seen them calling someone who is at
stand in bus or train to share their seat.
They can feel other’s pain
but not the pain of a colored person just because
he/she does not have a fair color. Are not you feeling like, “Being
fair earned them an unfair advantage”?
I have seen teachers doing the
same when they
meet a new bunch
of students. They feel
like that white colored person with a
spec is going to say something exceptional and
they also do have a prior impression on him which makes
him a good student irrespective of how absurd his
answer is. But this happens only for few classes. When the teacher comes
to know about the reality he swings his perceptions. But I do question, “Why for
the first time someone has
given him an edge without knowing him/her”? When we start our academic or our professional life in
our school or at some institution or at an office we always start mingling with
light colored person first
then we talk with those are
colored. We never judge their talent
or their proficiency but we don’t
have an inner stimulus to start interaction with them. And after few days when
we got accustomed to them by any
means we feel for them, maybe we can fall in love with them anything can
happen after that. There is no doubt over it. But the truth is we don't feel
that stimulus from inside
to be with them at first. At first I blamed
myself and thought I am a biased despite of having little less color
of my own.
Then I asked few people around me. And surprisingly they
too do that in their subconscious mind. But they
too agreed that
they don’t hate them. And some of has also a lot of colored friends. I am also speaking exactly same. Actual
problem is not what we think, problem is why we think? What made us to think
so? You all have noticed how a girl got embarrassed in a fair enhancing
advertise of a cream or soap only because she is little less in color. She feels
like being a colored person is obnoxious to her. How absurd this is? We often
have noticed how relatives praise kids for their white complexion and fell
sorry for the one who is little less in color. What do you think? These things
don’t impact us? Yes they do and they do in such a way that we edit our picture
and make us fairer to make it worthy of a profile picture. I have also done
that. There is nothing to hide. But why we do that? Is being more fair gives us
attention? I think you better know it. Now you evaluate yourself. Are you a colorist
(who believes that people of one color is superior to other)? If, yes then up
to what extent??? And am sure you are, not much but some. And you will argue, " That is not a crime". I will only say, "This world is so colorful my friend love all the colors, and that is not a crime too".
“Is it enough and all
to prove her that she is good”. I just stopped and realized, “It is
not enough, but why I feel
like she is good”? I told him “But I feel
like she is good”. Then he told me,
“This
is the problem. We live in
a country where a guy is regarded as studious or very studious if he
is fair and do wear a t-shirt
with a formal pant, and we don’t have even any doubt on our prejudication, if
he wears specs, But does
he have enough attributes or do
we think much before being prejudice“? I think "NO". We give those light
colored people an unfair advantage just because they are fair. Are we not the practitioners
of shadism or colorism? It was one of those many times
when he was right and I am wrong. And I don’t know how many will agree with his
plead but certainly I do
agree. I am sure it must have happened with you all, when u feel awkward to sit
with or to mingle with a colored
person (person dark or black in complexion)
only because, he is not fair. You always
give a reason to yourself that, “He
was not clean”? But please do introspect once.
Was it the truth? I think “No”. I am not saying that “we always avoid sitting
with a colored person, I am saying only “At
some point of our
life we have done that”. I
have never gone abroad but I have
gone outside of my
state several times. While going by bus
or by train, if some
colored person ask you
to share your seat for a few moment, what will
be your response? I have seen people dining them just because, they
are colored people.
The same people are not insensitive either. I have
seen them calling someone who is at
stand in bus or train to share their seat.
They can feel other’s pain
but not the pain of a colored person just because
he/she does not have a fair color. Are not you feeling like, “Being
fair earned them an unfair advantage”?
I have seen teachers doing the
same when they
meet a new bunch
of students. They feel
like that white colored person with a
spec is going to say something exceptional and
they also do have a prior impression on him which makes
him a good student irrespective of how absurd his
answer is. But this happens only for few classes. When the teacher comes
to know about the reality he swings his perceptions. But I do question, “Why for
the first time someone has
given him an edge without knowing him/her”? When we start our academic or our professional life in
our school or at some institution or at an office we always start mingling with
light colored person first
then we talk with those are
colored. We never judge their talent
or their proficiency but we don’t
have an inner stimulus to start interaction with them. And after few days when
we got accustomed to them by any
means we feel for them, maybe we can fall in love with them anything can
happen after that. There is no doubt over it. But the truth is we don't feel
that stimulus from inside
to be with them at first. At first I blamed
myself and thought I am a biased despite of having little less color
of my own.
Then I asked few people around me. And surprisingly they
too do that in their subconscious mind. But they
too agreed that
they don’t hate them. And some of has also a lot of colored friends. I am also speaking exactly same. Actual
problem is not what we think, problem is why we think? What made us to think
so? You all have noticed how a girl got embarrassed in a fair enhancing
advertise of a cream or soap only because she is little less in color. She feels
like being a colored person is obnoxious to her. How absurd this is? We often
have noticed how relatives praise kids for their white complexion and fell
sorry for the one who is little less in color. What do you think? These things
don’t impact us? Yes they do and they do in such a way that we edit our picture
and make us fairer to make it worthy of a profile picture. I have also done
that. There is nothing to hide. But why we do that? Is being more fair gives us
attention? I think you better know it. Now you evaluate yourself. Are you a colorist
(who believes that people of one color is superior to other)? If, yes then up
to what extent??? And am sure you are, not much but some. And you will argue, " That is not a crime". I will only say, "This world is so colorful my friend love all the colors, and that is not a crime too".
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